First, I am going to share with you two short stories.
The Hairstylist Dilemma
I am very sensitive about my hair colour. I used to live in Miami, and I had a hairstylist there, Ashley, who was the best in every way possible. I always came out of there feeling fabulous.
Ever since I moved to London nine months ago, it has been hard to find someone that handles my hair colour as well. I found this famous salon that was recommended to me by a few people. Before going to the salon, I thought about how the stylist would get my colour wrong, and my hair will probably end up orange instead of blonde. I felt disappointed before even going there, hoping they would prove me wrong. I tell the stylist exactly what I want, show pictures, and couldn't be more explicit. Somehow, the hair comes out exactly as I envisioned it in my anxious thoughts: orange. I've had this happen to me a few times in Miami before finding Ashley.
From Rags to Riches
I was walking around Harrods, dressed casually, with wet hair as I had just showered, and I like to let my hair dry naturally. I felt self-conscious about being in a nice place, under-dressed and with messy hair. I think I was looking for something particular I needed to buy. However, I had some time to spare, so I decided to browse for clothes. I had this self-consciousness about my appearance. Like I didn't fit in. Thus, I felt judged and ignored by the sales assistants. Thankfully, I had a moment of self-awareness and jumped out of this low-worthiness programme running in my head. While walking around, I said to myself: "Wait a second, I am a badass bitch..." and some other encouraging, high-frequency thoughts which made me feel good. My posture changed, the look in my eyes changed, and my energy changed. Suddenly, I had sales assistants coming to help me left and right. I remembered that my worthiness does not rely on exterior things like clothes. My worthiness is innate and intrinsic.
The point of these two stories is to illustrate that energy speaks louder than words. Louder than appearances. Louder than clothes. Essentially, louder than physical things.
The hair stylist I went to was experienced and had excellent reviews, and I thoroughly explained to him and showed him what look I wanted. But it still turned out how I envisioned my hair in my anxious thoughts.
Why?
Because that's what I communicated to him through my energy.
I did get mad, but should I have? Probably not.
In Harrods, at first, I was being ignored because the energy that was being communicated from me to the sales assistants was one of lack. When that changed, I was communicating an energy of abundance and confidence. This changed my experience and how I was perceived, despite nothing else changing.
So
First- Change Your Energy!
Don't worry so much about what you will say, how you look, or anything else you could worry about. Yes, these things matter, but if you change your energy first, the physical things will flow naturally because your body, words, look, and attitude will mould your energy. Think of energy like a muffin mould. The muffins take the shape of the mould. In the same way, the energy provides a structure in which the physical things take form.
Remember: Energy speaks louder than words, always!!!!
You can explain to your partner thirty times how they should do this and that right.
You can be highly prepared for that interview or be the most dressed-up person at that party.
But, if your energy is not there, it will be like all your efforts are invisible.
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