I just got off the phone feeling confused, sad, and tired. A friend had shared her relationship struggles, fears about her boyfriend abandoning her and all the drama and heaviness she was carrying. Later that day, I noticed myself having those same thoughts about my own partner, but I didn’t make the connection at the time. By the evening, when my partner came home, we ended up in an argument that had no real foundation.

That night, I even dreamt about it.

The truth? Those emotions weren’t mine. I had absorbed my friend’s energy into my own space.

So what happened? Let’s break it down.

If you’re an empath or a natural healer (as many of you reading this are), you unconsciously take on other people’s problems in an attempt to help or heal them.

In this situation, I wanted my friend to feel better. Without realising it, I decided to carry some of her fears and worries myself.

The truth is, if I didn’t already have similar fears in my energy field, I might not have been as affected. But because those worries resonated with old patterns in me, her energy lit up similar information in my space, which exacerbated the whole situation. 

What Does It Mean to Carry Someone Else’s Energy?

Your energy is unique. It’s your personal vibration. No one else has it, no one else ever will. Ever. When you’re living in your own energy, you feel clear, aligned, and connected.

But when you carry someone else’s energy, it’s like running their software on your system. Their emotions, expectations, or judgments land in your field and mix with your energy. Over time, you might even mistake their energy as yours.

Two Types of Foreign Energy

There are generally two ways this shows up:

1. Old, lingering energy. This has been sitting in your field for so long you may not even realise it’s not you. You’ve integrated it as part of who you are.

2. Recent, daily energy. This is what you pick up during interactions, conversations, or even just being in the same space with someone. It’s easier to notice and release, but it still clutters your field if left unchecked.

Signs You’re Carrying Someone Else’s Energy

Here are some of the most common signs:

• Confused preferences: your likes, appetite, style or motivation change depending on who you’re with.

• Difficulty making decisions: you keep second-guessing or feeling pulled toward someone else’s view.

• Physical sensations: tightness in chest, headache, stomachache, heaviness that appears around certain people.

• Dreams about someone else’s life/drama: vivid dreams repeating another person’s conflict or trauma.

• Feeling “full” or stuffed with others’ emotions: as if your own internal space is crowded.

• You replay other people’s problems. Long after a conversation is over, you keep thinking about their issues as if they were yours.

• You feel guilt or shame that isn’t yours. You take responsibility for other people’s emotions or choices.

• You don’t feel like yourself. You feel fuzzy, cloudy, or disconnected, as if you’re not fully present in your own body.

• You hold thoughts or beliefs that don’t really resonate. For example, you might think “I’ll never find love” or “I’ll never succeed,” even though deep down you know better. That’s someone else’s programming sitting in your field.

• Your mood shifts around certain people. You’re fine on your own, but when you’re with them you suddenly feel irritated, heavy, or even angry, without a clear reason.

  
  

If any of these sound familiar, you’re not alone. You’re simply carrying energy that doesn’t belong to you.

When your space is full of someone else’s energy, you lose clarity, confidence, and connection to your intuition. It affects your relationships, your decisions, and your ability to live from your Higher Self’s purpose.

Being in your own energy is the foundation of sovereignty. It allows you to trust your guidance and walk through the world with power and ease.

How to Begin Clearing Your Space

The good news is, you don’t have to carry this energy forever. A simple first step is awareness, that’s why I shared the list above. Notice how your space feels and bring your awareness to your body. 

Here is a short practice that you can do on the fly or even as you are walking on the street. If you are busy and you sense you are holding someone else’s energy, simply tune in to your space, say this highly effective mantra: 

Pro tip! Remember that it’s more about the strong intention that the words carry. Mindlessly repeating the words won’t have much of an effect. 

I let go of all energy that isn’t aligned with my unique vibration.

I call back my energy from all times, places, and people.

I am in my own space, whole and complete.

For walking, or a busy moment:

Clear and sovereign now

As you repeat this, if it is safe to do so, imagine your space lightening and your own energy flowing back in, filling your aura and making it brighter again. 

The more you practice, the easier it becomes to recognize what’s yours and what isn’t. It’s easier to remove energy that hasn’t been there for too long. Energy that remains for longer will be harder to detect as foreign. 

After many years of practicing energetic hygiene techniques, I have become very in tune with my space, to the point where I can almost always pick up on when someone is thinking of me. If I know the person, I can also tell exactly who it is.

If sharpening your intuition is something that interests you,

I am currently working on creating the long awaited Energetic Sovereignty & Intuitive Foundations Intro course that delves into these topics and techniques a lot more deeply. 

Right now, I’m offering Input Sessions where you can share your challenges with me directly. This helps me tailor the course to your needs. As a thank-you for your time, you’ll receive up to 44% off the course if you’re one of the ten people who book a session before October 1st 2025.

If this resonates, I’d love for you to join me. Together, we’ll make sure this course speaks directly to what you need most.